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Have you ever read a book written by Dr. John Gray? I bet some of you do. The infamous book entitled "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" is written by him. I've been reading Dr. Gray's book series on Mars and Venus, and throughout my reading I can see that Dr. John Gray stressed that Men and Women are different in terms of thought and perception in communication and problem solving. The analogies are:
One day long ago the Martians, looking through their telescopes, discovered the Venusians. Just glimpsing the Venusians awakened feelings they had never known. They fell in love and quickly invented space travel and flew to Venus.
The Venusians welcomed the Martians with open arms. They had intuitively known that this day would come. Their hearts opened wide to a love they had never felt before.
The love between the Venusians and Martians was magical. They delighted in being together, and sharing together. Though from different worlds, they revealed in their differences. They spent months learning about each other, exploring and appreciating their different needs, preferences and behaviour patterns. For years they lived together in love and harmony.
Then they decided to fly to Earth. In the beginning everything was wonderful and beautiful. But the effects of Earth's atmosphere took hold, and one morning everyone woke up with a peculiar kind of amnesia: selective amnesia! Both the Martians and Venusians forgot that they were from different planets and were supposed to be different. In one morning everything they had learned about their differences was erased from their memory. And since that day men and women have been in conflict.
- Captured from "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" by Dr. John Gray.
So, can you imagine that Men and Women are from different planets? And that Men and Women suffered from amnesia, and have forgotten their differences?
Please do not be confused. That is just an analogy, seriously. A perception from a writer's view to get the readers have better understanding on differences between men and women.
But I do understand some people may be disagree towards the analogy. Plus, for me, I think this book merely tells the differences between Men and Women through races/cultures but not on other aspects. But as a reader, it is up to us how we accept and value the idea of the writer.
Positively, the book series provides good advise, examples and consultation in managing your relationship. By understanding the key point differences between men and women, it will helps couples to apply once complication arises between them.
Here's main key point captured from the book series:
Martians value power, competency, efficiency and achievement. They are always doing things to prove themselves and develop their power and skills. Their sense of self is defined through their ability to achieve results. They experience fulfillment primarily through success and accomplishment.
Venusians have different values. They value love, communication, beauty and relationships. They spend a lot of time supporting, helping and nurturing one another. Their sense of self is defined through their feelings and the quality of their relationships.. They experience fulfillment through sharing and relating.
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Personally, I bet it might be difficult to adapt in real life situations as it takes both men and women to cope the problems faced in relationship.
Anyway, this book series is a good catch. Do spend a little time to read, thoroughly.....
Thanks for reading.
